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April 03, 2025

Messy, Real, and Ours: My Family Story

 My family is loud, loving, and unapologetically real. We live in a house that’s never truly quiet, filled with laughter, occasional chaos, and moments that remind me that perfection is overrated. We are messy, imperfect, and deeply connected—and that’s exactly how I like it.

Meet the Family

  • My husband: The fiery one, the protector, the one who feels everything deeply and reacts just as intensely. He’s passionate, sometimes stubborn, but always present in his own way.
  • My kids: The energy in the house—the sibling duo that can go from fighting over crayons to hugging within seconds. They remind me daily that chaos and love are two sides of the same coin.
  • Me: The one trying to balance it all—wife, mom, caregiver, and storyteller. I’m learning to embrace the mess and find beauty in the everyday moments.

The Beautiful Chaos: What Family Looks Like in My Home
   Family, in our house, isn’t just about picture-perfect moments. It’s about the mess, the noise, and the undeniable love woven into everyday chaos.
  • It looks like… an explosion of toys across the floor, mismatched socks, shoes scattered by the front door no matter how many times I tell everyone to put them away, a kitchen counter crowded with half-finished projects, and my husband pacing, fired up over something completely trivial but undeniably important to him.
  • It sounds like… my kids shrieking over who had the toy first, my husband’s intense voice calling out for order, me trying to intervene while simultaneously stirring dinner, and somehow, through it all, the occasional bursts of laughter that remind me we’re doing okay.
  • It feels like… exhaustion mixed with fierce love, patience tested to its limits, and a deep knowing that even in the hardest moments, we’re building something real.

    Some days, it’s survival mode. The kids are screaming about who touched whose stuff, my husband’s fiery frustration fills the room, and I’m standing in the middle of it all with dinner boiling over on the stove. Other days, it’s all quiet chaos—random shoes scattered across the house, impromptu wrestling matches on the couch, and me frantically searching for a coffee mug that somehow got abducted by the kids. Every day feels like a beautiful mess, full of moments that range from hilariously absurd to deeply exhausting, but somehow, we always find our way back to love.
It’s in the wild debates over whether ranch dressing belongs on eggs (it doesn’t, for the record πŸ˜–), in the spontaneous dance parties in the living room, and in the fiery energy my husband brings that somehow anchors us even when it feels overwhelming. It’s imperfect, unpredictable, and occasionally downright chaotic. But at the end of every day—whether I’m scrubbing permanent marker off the walls or laughing at the complete circus we’ve created—I know this: this is home, this is us, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.





Navigating My Own Path

 Finding What I Want to Write About   

 Hi, my name is Ruthie! Welcome to my blogging journey. To this day, I still don’t know what "I want to be when I grow up." I used to think I had it all figured out. I started out as a housekeeper in a nursing home, then worked as a CNA, confident that I would continue my education to be a nurse. The compliments I received made me feel like I was doing what I was meant to do.

 But then life threw me a curveball: two kids, childcare costs skyrocketing, and an economic system that seems to punish those trying to get ahead. How do you justify paying someone else to raise your children, while you work just to cover the cost of paying them? It never added up for us. So, I became a stay-at-home mom and gave up more than I could have imagined—my financial, social, and mental freedom. 

I’ve been working since I was 13 years old, so stepping into this new role wasn’t easy at first. But as much as I struggled to adjust, I’ve discovered just how hard—and rewarding—it is to be a stay-at-home mom, wife, and caregiver all rolled into one. 

So, I figured, hmmm, maybe I should write about all these treasured, rewarding moments I’m learning about—because even in the chaos, there’s so much worth celebrating. And maybe, one day, my children will have something of value to reminisce on, a record of the love and effort that shaped these moments.πŸ’—



What Do I Say?

I’ve always known I have stories to tell, but deciding which story to focus on felt impossible. As I juggled the chaos of family life and caregiving, I kept asking myself: "What do I really want to say?" πŸ€”

Then, one late night, running on fumes after a long day filled with siblings fighting, caregiving responsibilities, and grasping for just a moment of peace, I found myself standing in the kitchen watching the beautiful chaos unfold around me, and it hit me....this is it. This is what I want to write about! Not the polished, picture-perfect version of life we see on social media, but the raw, messy, and heartfelt moments that make life truly meaningful.

Prime Examples of the Messy Moments

  • The kids having too much screen time, but it helps you get things done in peace πŸ˜”
  • Four cats fighting and the dog breaking it up, causing a raucous
  • Grandpa asking me to heat up his dinner plate again because it cooled off too fast.
  • My husband walks through the door after a long day at work, only to hear the kids arguing/ not listening, I instantly notice his frustration.
  • Looking out the window and seeing that a chicken or turkey escaped the run again πŸ™„

The answer wasn’t in trying to find perfection—it was hidden in the everyday chaos, in the layers of love and struggle that fill my world. I realized that my journey, with all its imperfections, was exactly what I wanted to explore. ✅

Through this blog, I hope to show others that it’s okay to embrace the chaos, because that’s where the beauty lies—in the space between the moments of challenge and joy.

This is my way of navigating life’s layers, and I hope it inspires you to do the same. Let’s dive into this messy, wonderful adventure together.


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